One Orphan is Too Many – Podcast Episode
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Doug Shares Past, Present, and Future for Orphan World Relief
4.74 So Doug, welcome to the roundtable. Thank you, Lance. Great to be here. Yeah, I’m so glad that we were able to finally do this. I’ve been thinking about asking you, I think for the last year and a half. And it took me that long to ask you and to get you on. So yeah, let’s just why don’t you just tell us a little bit about yourself? Sure. So it was Doug. I have lived in central Ohio since 1987. Although I went to high school out in Roseburg and I went to stepped away for college in Texas and
Doug Riggle 3:09
been back here ever since. Which college did you go to? I don’t think I knew that. University of Texas San Antonio. Okay. All right. Yeah, county. Why why San Antonio. So I Texas. When I was 17, I graduated high school. And my parents said, we’re moving to Texas. You can’t stay here by yourself. I had a scholarship to theater scholarship to theater and Otterbein. I didn’t know that. And my parents said, You’re not living here by yourself. We i i had it all worked out. I had a place to stay. I was and they’re like, nope. And they just put their foot down. They put their foot down and I’m like, I’m still a 17. So So okay, so then you go to Texas who paid for your education? I did. You paid for your education. So when you had a scholarship, that’s hilarious. Yeah. Well, to be honest, I paid never more than $500 a semester. Oh, wow. After I became a resident of Texas, is that like a Texas thing? It was it was it was back in 1983. When I started college, wow. Wow. Okay. Yeah. And that included books, and I was an English major. They didn’t have a theater department at the time. So I’m like, Okay, what’s next? I love reading. Let’s do English.
I actually thought about English for a second, like majoring English for a second because, well, I didn’t know anything when I went to college, like, pretty much about anything. But I was like, I want to be a writer. Like I wanted to write books. Yeah. And so I asked the people, I guess I started Columbus State, and they’re like, Oh, you could do journalism, or you could major in English. And I
I’m sure to be sure I was six. I took three three times before I passed it. Really? It was so boring. I grew up. I mean, I went to school in Ohio. So I had Ohio History in high school. Yeah. And when I got to Texas, they require you to take Texas history. And of course, everyone around me had already taken it because they lived and yeah, I’m like, their claim to fame is that they were their own country for about a year or so. Yeah. between Mexico and the United States. And then the only other thing I remember of the mainboard is the very first governor. His, his name was he was governor Hogg. His wife’s name was ima. And I just thought that was hysterical. I’m no one else thought that was funny. But I did the Yankee from the north cell. That’s, that’s really funny. Did you ever develop an accent while you were there? No, actually, when growing up, we lived in different places. And my mom was from Appalachia. My dad really in southern Ohio, when they adopted my adoptive parents. Yeah. And I had an accent when we moved from Nevada when my dad retired to Ohio. And I got teased so much in school, it took me a while I lost the accent. Okay, it comes back when I’m really, really tired. Or on the very, very massively rare occasion when I’ve had too much to drink.
It comes back out. Oh, really? Yes. So fascinating. How old were you when you were adopted? I was a month old. You were a month old. So infant? infant? Yep. Okay. All right. Then how did they like was it just through like, whatever agency or whatever they were stationed in Iowa, Waverly, Iowa at the time and station, like military, okay. And then mom had had three miscarriages after my sister. And the doctor said no more. Yeah. Your body’s telling. You can’t have any children. So they adopted me when they were living in Iowa. Wow. Wow. And then they ended up in Ohio. So my dad’s family’s from Ohio. Got it. We lived in Iowa, Nevada. They were stationed in Washington state for a while where they had my sister. They were stationed in Mississippi for tech school.
Trying to think we’re all saved. And Virginia. Mom’s from so when dad would go he repaired radar. Okay, and so when he would go out and repair radar in Alaska, usually
we would go live with family members sometimes. Not in Alaska, not in Alaska. That way we didn’t have to do or Alaska said no because I’ve always wanted to see it. But I know back then. It’s like no, no one went there. Right? Yeah. Yeah. It’s an interesting place. There are some people that I know that are in the military.
So we were walking down the hall and one of his roommates came up there were three boys in this room came up. Hey, Richie, who’s this guy? And he grabs me his little hands. He grabbed me by that by the pinky. This is my new pop.
Lance Foulis 0:17
Doug Riggle 0:18
like turning away. Trying not to like, burst out in tears. Oh, yeah. Yeah, he was smart. He knew what was going on. Yeah. Even though he
together Yeah. Wow. So this is my new pop. Yeah,
Kim Foulis 0:32
gosh, I’m not crying you’re crying
Lance Foulis 7:43
I think he’s, uh, yeah, he’s career Air Force. And they’ve been all over the place. But they I don’t know how many years they’ve been in Alaska. But the pictures that they’ll post like a random moose. That there that’s like going across the road. And then yeah, like, take a picture at two o’clock in the morning. It’s still daytime out. Like, although, yeah, weird stuff like that. I would be hard to get used to daytime at 2am. Or kids would love it. Yeah, probably. Okay. So, English major, and then talk to us a little bit about? Well, let’s just let’s just talk about we’re from the World Relief. Sure. Why you why you founded it, what the purpose of it is,
Doug Riggle 8:22
you know, back in 98, I took my first mission trip ever. And I remember, Pastor, my church, Chris asked us asked me if I wanted to go. And I’ve never been out of the country before. Well, I’ve been to Mexico, technically just over the border, into Canada over the border. But I’d never really been out of the US. And I thought about it, prayed about it and like, Okay, let’s go. Okay. And so we went there. And it’s funny, because just last night, I’m working on a book with a friend of mine, collaborator, Kevin Greg out in California. We just went through this section of the book last night for the like, second or third time.
So you’re writing a book to Yes. Oh, we’ll get into that. Okay, we can talk
about that. And we went over there and we spent a day there was a young man named Pasha and he worked with homeless boys in this little area in Kiev called Eternal Park, which is a little little island in the middle of the river, you get to by train. And we were there. We kick the you know, kick the ball around, I day played soccer. I kicked the ball. I have no sports ability whatsoever. No depth perception, no sports ability at all. So we ended up playing with these kids, just having a good time with them. They were all homeless kids. Pasha got $145 from an American couple a month that paid for his living expenses and allowed him to do outreach to these homeless boys. Wow. And I spent you know, we spent the day with him. I shared my testimony with them. Yeah, the next day, we were going to visit an orphanage north of town. Funny story where We were driving north of town and our driver URI had made a crack earlier about women drivers. So my interpreter refused to interpret anything. He said to me because she was mad at him. So I asked URI I said, you know, was able to get out in some basic Russian, Ukrainian, where’s the orphanage? And he points straight ahead. I’m like, well, that’s helpful. And I said, Good yet Chernobyl. I said, Where’s Chernobyl? He points straight ahead. Then he’s like, he’s, I could see him like freeze the turns around in the seats. Like, we stay short time. I’m like, okay. So anyway, when he took you to the orphanage took us to the orphanage. Before we got there, we took a bus. And we had to meet you’re in the north part of town. We took a bus and we actually walked under, spent about 20 minutes walking, to get there to meet Yuri to get the bus to go to the orphanage. Sorry, awkward story. We walked under a bridge and I could hear someone call my name. What I know. I’m like, I’m in the middle of Ukraine. And no one except for the people around me know who I am. Yeah. And then I’m like, Just hearing things. And then finally, I had this little voice, Douglas. I turned around, and the bridge we had just walked under. In the rafters of the bridge, were the boys that we had spent the day with the day before. No way. They slept under the bridge that night. Wow. And that was the moment God’s like, you’re not going to go back to the US and not do something about this. Wow, I’d already been thinking of adopting. And so this was during that same time frame. I’m like, Okay, I know, I know, I you know, I need to adopt, I plan on adopting. I was married before. I wanted to adopt my wife wanted to have our own natural kids. And so there was some conflict there. And I’m like, but uh, now I’m single. Yeah, like, I can’t adopt, which, that changed. I changed my mind, which is like, a mindset that you have is mindset. Yeah, yeah. Cuz I knew it’d be hard because my best friend’s Rick and Nancy had adopted three girls, and then fourth girl. Oh, that
was after they adopted theirs. Right. About the same time. Okay. All right.
And they were just in the process. And they were still probably in the honeymoon period. Yeah. I didn’t have any warning signs telling me not. But it’s still at, you know, I wouldn’t trade it for the world. It’s still the right thing to do and what I felt God calling me to do. But I also realized I needed to do something broader. Because growing up, I didn’t know anyone adopted. I didn’t know any orphans. I just thought I was the only one. Oh, really. And I had no clue that there were millions upon millions of kids in this world who are orphaned, abandoned, eating, you know, kids at risk, were right on the brink of being orphaned or abandoned. And so after that trip, I came back here, and I started to the United States and started researching and figuring out, oh, my gosh, 147 plus million kids orphaned, that they can count. How many 140 7 million
147 million kids globally? Yeah. In the United States
in foster care. There’s about 400,000 kids at any one time.
Lance Foulis 13:12
Wow. That’s not even I was surprised cuz I saw that on your website. And for some reason, in my head, it was a larger number. So to me, it’s almost like, it’s, I think I just had the thought like, oh, like, there could be a bigger impact, potentially. Right? Because there’s not I thought it would be millions of kids in the foster care, but in the US 400,000. Well, if you
Doug Riggle 13:32
think about the kids in the foster care system, every year, about 20,000 of them aged out, got it. So every year there are 20,000 kids who are now without a family without any support structure, which is one of the programs that we’re building right now. It’s called foster to adult Yep, that we’re getting off the ground to help some of these kids who, in some cases are falling through the cracks. So the Children’s Services, county agency where we are at currently. I don’t have the exact numbers. And you know, I would probably, like get sued if I say this out loud. But some of the things that they’re doing is pulling kids out of foster care. And before they’re 18, or reuniting them with their families, that they’re out of the system. They’re no longer counted as a number. And then they turn 18, though they’re with a family that, you know, neglected or abused them before. And now they’re back on their own again,
but like, is that going back into a good situation? Or no? Okay. Yeah. Yeah,
it’s not, but it’s a way to clear the books and save money. Oh, wow. And it’s it’s really, I’d love to find a good investigative reporter to kind of do some digging.
I would love it. If we had more investigative reporters these days. I
would love them. Yes. Anyone who’s actually a reporter. Yeah, right. Yeah. And actual they don’t exist anymore like they used to, right. Oh, yeah.
Yeah, definitely. Hey, somebody out there hearing this podcast.
Kim Foulis 15:00
Just heard you. Come talk to me.
Lance Foulis 15:03
Okay. So let’s talk about let’s, I mean, you mentioned a few things there. So let’s talk about I’m, I’m kind of a little bit curious about your childhood. So let’s maybe start there. Like, when did you figure out that you were adopting? Like, what does that even like, I was
Doug Riggle 15:17
in fifth grade, and my parents pulled me into the kitchen. And my dad paced back and forth, and like, I’m in trouble. What did I do wrong? It’s like he can feel thank me get to get her over with now, whatever I did wrong. Mom would start to speak and she started crying. I’m like, oh, man, they’re getting a divorce. But that doesn’t happen. This is the 70s. It’s like, yeah, all these thoughts going through a kid’s mind. And then finally, the they came out with it. And I realized later in life, that was my dad pushing my mom. We need to tell Doug that he’s adopted. Okay. Everyone else knew. Sure. So they figured it was your sister knew? Oh, yeah, she did. She was nine years old when they adopted me got it. So she had to know she was Yeah. I would get her in trouble later. And with mom and dad, Debbie said that I’m not her brother. Oh, she get in big trouble for saying that for saying that. Even if she said her. She didn’t say I knew that could get her in trouble. So you had that lever. I have that lever over her. Okay. But yeah, so a fifth grade. And I was told I was adopted. I remember. They told me on a Sunday night, Monday morning, I went to school, and we were doing these little men Deleon genetic square things about eye color. Okay, and to figure out your mom has blue eyes. Your dad has brown eyes, what possible color accommodations? And I’m like, I don’t want to feel this assignment. So I went up the teacher while we were like working on some of the stuff there. And I’m like, I’m adopted. I said, this, this may not work for me. I don’t want to get a bad grade. So it’s the cell teacher in front of the entire class. Hey, everyone, Doug’s different than the rest of us. He’s adopted. Come on. Oh, my gosh, yeah. I and I was a shy kid. And I just like wanted to crawl into a hole. Oh, my. And then lunchtime. I had kids asking me questions. You know, are you a bastard? I didn’t know what the word meant. Why? Yeah. So I’m like, I’m like, No, I know what the word meant. I had to look it up when I got home, in fifth grade, eighth grade, and, you know, ask me questions about who my family were. And I’m like, you know, I didn’t know. I had no information. They my parents told me when I turned 18, they would share with me about what they knew about my biological family. Interesting, which they didn’t. They didn’t know I snuck into their their room and broke into the little metal filing cabinet and got the information to myself when I was 19.
Oh, wow. Yeah. I mean, you will be more patient than I think. Yeah, then. So but when you’re fifth grade, your parents tell you that Yeah. What does that like?
It? There was parts of it didn’t like okay, some of this makes sense now. Oh, sure. I never knew my dad liked me much less loved me until I was out of college. Wow. Now I know now he does. He did you know, he’s passed since. But growing up, I just always felt that there was a disconnect. Interesting part. Partly because I didn’t understand His love language. Okay. His love language was giving me things and so, okay, I remember one time, I was probably 30 He had this hideous lamp. My dad went blind after like his second open heart surgery. He would go antique shopping with my mom and he, you know, spend money on things that you didn’t need, but he had this lamp that was just absolutely hideous, but he loved it. And he wanted to give it to me and I didn’t take it. And that hurt him. Oh, wow. Because I was rejecting His love is basically you know, I you know, I wish I’d you know know now what I knew then but sure her knew then what I know now, you know hindsight
Lance Foulis 18:53
toys. It is way easier. Yeah, they’re nine site. Okay, so I can’t I just can’t imagine being in fifth grade and having a truth bomb dropped on you. And then being in the middle of a class and a teacher pulling a stunt like that. Yeah, that’s awful. Yeah, yeah. Yeah, that’s okay. That’s just unreal. Alright, so back back to the timeline. 98. You come back, you’re doing research. Tell me about how you were doing your research because this isn’t 98 I think we had the internet right. But it wasn’t anywhere like it is now.
Doug Riggle 19:22
No, you’re part of it was talking to people and part of it. So I actually then started the adoption process myself to get certified to adopt. Because you can go through the entire class and process and not actually adopt. But sure, I’d like I want to learn more. And fortunate. I mean, I learned a lot about kids waiting kids in the US and in America. But it wasn’t until talking with other people that I was connected with at church and other places that I learned about orphanages and what the needs were and I that second day in Ukraine, I’d actually visited a different orphanage. And so I got to see firsthand, a very well run orphanage. There’s a story telling in the book about a little girl named Masha and her brother, who were when they were six and seven, it’s right at the fall of communism in 91. It’s that that weird perspective here in America, we’re all cheering communism has fallen over there that it’s 45% unemployment. So these parents are just making a decision. Do we watch our kids starve to death? Because we both lost our jobs? Or do we do something about it? So what they did is they taught their six year old daughter to become a prostitute. Oh my gosh, and they drank heavily. And this is the little girl in the orphanage with their brother. And then later on, you know, because they were drinking so much the money away. They sent their son out to work as a sex worker as well, who was seven years old. Geez, so the kids ran away. Fortunately, sadly, though, until live on the streets, all they knew had to do was sell their bodies. So you know, got these now at this point eight, nine year olds filling the bodies to strangers, horribly dangerous, obviously. And this is before we had this big understanding of child sex trafficking. They someone from the orphanage that they were at found them and brought them in. It took psychologist over a year’s worth of work with a little girl just to teach her to have fun and play. Oh, wow. So I got to see the positive results of what a good program could do is orphanages get a horrible rap? Yes. I mean, orphanages were gone, probably in the set by the 70s in the United States as well. And we might move to a foster care system by enlarge. Okay, and so
it’s never thought about that. We don’t have orphanages in the States, we
probably threw the baby out with the bathwater, right? Because at least two orphanages is permanency. Yeah, I’m here. I’m not going from house to house to house. Yeah, I don’t know if you know, by the time I adopted my son, I he from age five to age 13. When I got him, he was in about 15 different foster home placements. She’s Yeah, that to me did as much damage to him as the reasons that he was taken from his biological frames again, with for sure. I mean, it’s think about that. There’s no permanency there. There’s no, you know, you’re in a new house one day, there are new rules, right? And your new relationship, your relationships, and these people are supposed to take care of you. Oh, there’s some great foster parents out there. Yeah. But the ones who are like, Okay, we’re going on vacation now come take these kids. And they put them into the place of like they’re doing more harm. Right. And good,
right. So let’s talk about a couple of programs or fun World Relief does. Sure. Let’s talk about, well, you can talk about it in any order that you want.
So we started out to all of our programs to begin with for international and we came alongside programs that were well run, and wanted to provide financial support for them. Because they didn’t have they were small, but they didn’t have a lot of like us support. Yeah, so we want to be able to tell their story. At the same time. We came alongside some of them too, and help them become more self sufficient. God. So for example, in Honduras, Casa Garvey, we worked with them to help them set up a chicken and cattle farm,
Lance Foulis 23:17
an orphanage at the orphanage. Wow, so
Doug Riggle 23:19
that the kids can learn a trade. They are producing protein that’s needed for everyone. Yeah, excess. So you’ve got beef, milk, chicken eggs, excess protein can be sold to community to make them more self sufficient. Wow. It’s just an amazing program. Yeah, it’s just fabulous. They’re kind of like our hallmark of what a good program is. Because it’s not just an insular little program, we send money to orphans. It’s a program that involves the church, they have a block, the church works with block factories, everything becomes part of the organism that helps the kids there. There’s also a nutrition center in Lemo nearby that helps kids and families with provide better nutrition to their kids,
Kim Foulis 24:03
which I’ve been to, by the way, when I was 15. That’s the one that you went, I didn’t know that. That’s where I went. So I was 15. I was there for a week. And there was a group of people that were working building walls, but then there was a second, like smaller group that was going to go over to the nutrition center. Okay, so I was like, Yeah, that’s me. That’s me. And I knew a little bit of span like enough to talk to little kids. And I mean, they just they cling to you, they surround you with all of this. I need love. I want to love. But also, this is like my one meal a day. And I’m just you can tell they’re so hungry for everything.
Doug Riggle 24:39
Everything. Yeah, yes,
Kim Foulis 24:41
it was phenomenal.
Doug Riggle 24:42
I’ve got some great pictures in the office of there’s one of me and one kid on a teeter-totter and like eight kids on the other side of the teeter-totter. It’s just great like
you’re doing the teeter-totter with eight other kids. Yeah, that’s hilarious. Yeah, it’s great program there who came up with the idea for that program? Without you
No, that’s that was also run by Yovani. The guy who started the church, he started the orphanage. He was a doctor still as a doctor. So he went to work with HIV kids, the nutrition center came about. And it’s all this big collaborative effort. They’ve got a Block Factory, they’ve got a sustainable tree farm. They have two tortilla factories in the city. They’ve got a row of houses that they work with women who have HIV. Wow. And the women so it make purses. Every time I go there, I buy a ton of purses and bring them back. They’re really beautiful. And I’m like, these several like crazy here in America for a good amount. Yeah, we could get them to commoditize
a little bit more. But that’s so that’s such a good idea.
Oh, it’s amazing. It’s amazing.
Kim Foulis 25:42
It’s hearing about the whole ecosystem. Yeah, it can build like and be sustainable.
Doug Riggle 25:47
you’re learning responsibility. And like you said, you’re learning a trade. That’s huge. Yeah,
there was an orphanage in North Africa. I really, I’ve been trying to find the information about it. I read about it back in like 2000. And they teach the kids to 10 the vineyards. And the adults produce wine and sell that and everything has become self-sufficient. The kids then can go when they leave the orphanage, they want 10 Great finds that get 30 bucks an hour, right? I mean, that’s a good skill to have. And yeah, yeah.
That’s so awesome. So it started off as International. How long did it take you from 98? Till like you were able to found Orphan World Relief.
Lance Foulis 27:14
like, Okay, we can’t afford that. Yeah, that’s a lot of infrastructure.
Doug Riggle 27:17
It is a lot of infrastructure. So I jokingly refer to us as kind of like the Wholesale Club for orphans. I love that because it’s, we deal in bulk. Yeah. And we want to have the maximum impact. So we have a spreadsheet. Right now we have like seven programs internationally that we support. Okay. Every time like once a quarter, we send out money to the programs. And we take, like, let’s say we have $10,000 to send out, it goes into a spreadsheet that factors in the number of kids being impacted the cost of living for that area of the world, and their annual budget. So we never give more than 20% of their annual budget because we’d never want anyone 100% dependent on us – make sense. Because if we fail, they fail. We don’t want ever want that to happen. And that happens quite a bit. Sure. But then they each get each quarter equal buying power. So like St. Petersburg, Russia is one of the more expensive places where the harbor’s located. And so they may actually get the bulk of the money, but they get the same buying power as the three programs that we support in Honduras, and the same program we support in the Ukraine and Russia. Got it.
Okay. And then when you’re doing all of this, the decade before you’re able to found it, what’s your day job?
Let’s see. So I was working at an insurance company here in Columbus, I left there in 2011, which is the year we got our 501 C three status. We’ve been doing work before then for our nonprofit, but everything was retroactive, which was great. As far as donations. But I was at that time I was it human resources. Got it. Okay. And I was a communications expert there.
So figuring out how to start up a nonprofit was just like a side gig. Yeah, yeah.
Yeah. And they’re like, there are different ways to set up a board. You can find people who are passionate about what you’re passionate about and can come alongside and support your vision, or people with deep pockets. Sure. Pardon me is like I should have chosen the people with deep pockets. But I did. I picked you know, three people. Rick, Nancy, who were my best friends, and my buddy Steve. They were the original three board members. He was my personal trainer for a while. Got it. They came alongside and supported everything that I did. And yeah, helped me make decisions as we grew. Now. We’ve got a board of about 10 people. Wow, in different parts of the US and in Honduras as well. Wow. So it’s been an amazing growth since then.
Lance Foulis 29:51
Yeah, that’s fantastic. And the impact that you’ve had is that there are the organizations that had is probably quite 1000s of kids. Yeah, yeah. Overall over the years that wouldn’t have, it wouldn’t have been positively impacted without, yeah, it just kind of blows my mind that you, it’s almost like it was just this process that was kind of like laid out, you go on a trip. And that basically is like, essentially plants a seed, and then eventually that seed over time. I mean, you obviously did work, you know, to come back and do all the research and learn. Yep, you adopted during that time. And so you’re raising a kid during that time as well. And then you had the ability to, you know, launch this thing that’s still going on now and is grown. So.
Tell me about the book
Doug Riggle 30:46
that you’re writing. So right now, Kevin, and I’ve been working on this for over a year is Kevin from California, half of California, Kevin, Greg, amazing, amazing guy. I’ve been so blessed. I found him through a company called Upwork. And I interviewed about seven people I’ve been asked to write this book by people off and on about, it’s basically my life story. Sure. And how God has used things in my life to help push me forward and to learn to weather the storms of life. So the books called right now I’d rather be a buffalo. Interesting. So when a storm comes, cows will run along with the storm and just get drenched. Okay, Buffalo will run into the storm. So they get through it on the other side, fast. No way. And I’m like, That is a great way for the way I’ve been. God has been orchestrating my life. And I’m like, Okay, wow. So instead of shying away from the topic, so, you know, if we get to the topic of my son, later on, he committed suicide 14 years ago, the one I adopted, and I tell the story, over and over again. It was actually two weeks before Christmas. And at Christmas time, I remember sitting with my family, and everyone’s walking on eggshells, and no one’s talking about Richie and he had just passed. Wow, in my mind, like this is natural. So I started telling stories. And I started Oh, you know, Richie would have loved this. I remember when, you know, his cousin’s like, when you guys did this, and you got stuck on 270, he didn’t know where to get off and drove around 270 times. before? Storytelling is so healing and you know, and I look at the Bible, the Bible is full of stories. And not clean ones either. No, no. Life is messy.
Very messy. Yeah. Let’s go ahead and talk about Richie. Yeah, you adopted 13. adopted him at 13. I knew Richie. Yeah.
He and your brother used to hang out quite a bit. Shall That’s right. Yeah. Yeah. I’ve got great memories of them camping. There was a storm that came up during the one time we were camping. And I’m like, I got up and got out of the tent. I was sharing a tent. I think with Rick and my buddy James and I got my jeep because I couldn’t sleep. So I’m laying there in the jeep and the storm comes up and then I look over and I see what used to be a tent is now Richie and Shawn flailing about. Trying to stay dry as Yeah, keep the tent up. Yep. During this whole time. Whose tent was that? I think it was your brother’s.
Lance Foulis 33:18
Oh, geez. Hey, Shawn. Hey, Shawn. Hey, Shawn. So like, yeah, we grew up Shawn and I grew up in our family, my brother and my dad, my two brothers and my dad. I got two older brothers, Todd and Sean. And then my dad, we always used to camp and there’s something about the weather nodes when you’re camping. Yeah, it was. I don’t know how many times we set up tents in the rain. Just got absolutely. And like, to be looking back on that. If I had been the dad in that situation. I’d been like, Alright, we’re done. We’re leaving. Not my dad. It’s like we’re here. We’re nice. We’re camping. Camping. Yes. Whether the rain stops or not. Okay, so yeah. So you had Richie at age 13. Yep. Some reason I thought he was younger. Tell us that story, finding Richie.
Doug Riggle 34:04
So, oddly enough, the year before I had been through the adoption process. And there was another young man named Jason from Ironton, Ohio that I was going to adopt, okay. And he was 17. I was kind of his last hope to have a family. And then I was taking him down, he would come up and spend the weekends with me. I was taking him down. It was getting close to him moving in with me. Uh-huh. And he on the drive down. He’s like, I gotta just need to tell you that. I don’t want to be adopted. Hmm. And so I’ve started probing a little bit like, Okay, can you tell me more what you know? And he’s like, it’s not you. It’s I just don’t want to be adopted. And so I dropped him off at the foster home, called the social worker right away. This is a Sunday evening and she called me right back. And so then she went and talked to him and she couldn’t get anything out of him other than he didn’t want to be adopted. Interesting. And he wanted to stay where he was in Ironton, Ohio. And so I’m like, okay, heartbroken for one, investing a lot of time. And she’s just like, just make a clean break. It’s like, like, okay, that’s easy to say it’s hard to do, right? But I took her advice. She’s a social worker, I took her advice, and I didn’t have any contact with him. For a couple of years, actually. He actually contacted me. After I’d adopted Richie went down to see him, come to find out. His girlfriend was pregnant. And he didn’t want to leave her. Got it. So I’m like, okay, dude. Totally honor that. Yeah, I wish you had said something. I said we could have figured something out. But same time, you know, respect your desire to stay there with your girlfriend. Yeah. But yeah, so then, then I’m like, okay, is this God’s way of telling me don’t adopt. And so I’m, like, go about life working. And I remember one day, I went upstairs to do something. I had this old house on campus to the story. I go upstairs and I look over in the room, which was Jason’s, which he would have had. And I saw my dog, Max, I had a collie max at the time laying on the bed, where Jason was, and the only time Max ever laid on that bed was when Jason was there. And I just started bawling my eyes out. Oh, my gosh, I was like, in tears. Yeah. Like, I still want to be a father. Yeah. And I was still had plenty of time on my adoption, certification to go ahead and adopt. So I like, Okay, let me start this process again. Oh, wow.
So you put your you basically just put yourself back out there? Yeah, essentially. Yeah. So you go through the whole process. How long was that process with Jason? Would you say?
It was about seven months? Seven months? Get
Lance Foulis 36:43
to know him? Yeah. Thinking that. Okay. I’m going to adopt you. You’re going to be my kid? Yeah. Do you have that in your brain? And then he’s like, No. And then that’s crushing. Yeah. And then now you’re like, Okay, I’m gonna put myself out there again. That’s one thing. I think I never realized that. Okay. So there’s a couple of observations, I think I can make anybody and everybody that I know that has adopted or thought about adopting, it’s usually been something that’s been in their, their mind that they want to do for a long, long, long time. Right. And then it is a long process. And you are really putting yourself out there. Yes. I know, people that thought they were going to adopt and it didn’t, and it felt like death. Yes. Is that was similar to very similar? Unreal. Okay, so So, so you’re, you’re back. I’m gonna put myself out there again.
Doug Riggle 37:36
Yep. By this time, adopt us. the website was up and running. And you could see kids available for adoption. So I was looking, I mean, I was paying attention to kids from quite a few states away, because the adoption certification in Ohio was good for a couple of other states. Got it. But then I saw this little boy with big sticky-out ears up in Cleveland, Ohio. And I contacted a social worker, she contacted me, we talked on the phone quite a bit. And so I’m like, she was being very hesitant. What I come to find out, like about a month later, is that he had been through a failed adoption to Oh, wow. So the family that was going to adopt him. This is horrible. They brought him into their home. And then they change their mind. And so that what they did, they lied. And they said that he sexually abused their daughter, what they admitted later on that they lied. But he was devastated. That horrible Yeah, was like, people, people don’t realize what they do to kids. And it’s just kidding. So they like, we need to make sure you’re on the up and up, and we need to make sure this isn’t going to fail. So we’re gonna spend a lot of time talking to you before we even let you get to meet him. Okay, which is fair enough? Yeah, I totally get her. They sent me. They sent me his paperwork. Oh my gosh, it took me a day to put the paperwork in because there’s no structure ordered anything. Okay? This is when everything’s physical paper, too. So I’ve gotten four binders, like three-inch binders of paperwork that I first put in date order, so I could read his story from end to end and figure out, you know, there were duplicates. And I had to go through this and that and like, Oh my gosh. So I read his, his file. Wow. And then I, you know, I’m like, Hey, you know, let’s, let’s go forward with this. So then she had me come up and we had a meeting with two of his teachers. He was living in a residential home in Cleveland. He wasn’t in the foster care system anymore. But he was in the foster care system, but at a residential home, Cleveland Christian home, okay. And I go up there, meet with them and she’s like, look, because of his background. Let’s just, you know, you can come up every weekend. spend the weekend with him here. We’ll say that you’re here to mentor him. Mm, like, Okay, that’s fair. And so like, I just like, I’m just being protective. I’m like, No, I totally get it. Yeah. So she brought him into this room and the three of us sat and talked for a little bit. And then we go to the gymnasium there at Cleveland Christian home, and we’re playing horse or something. And again, it’s sports-related, and I’m lousy. So I lost. Even Kim, the little four foot two social worker beat me. But that’s okay. And then she’s like, let me give you the two of you a chance to talk. It’s just like, hey, Richie. Why don’t you take Doug to see your room? Like, okay, yeah, this is great. So we’re walking down the hall. And this one of his roommates came up there were three boys in this room came up. Hey, Richie, who’s this guy? And he grabs me his little hands. He grabbed me by that by the pinky. This is my new pop. Oh, I like turning away. Trying not to like burst out in tears. Oh, yeah. Yeah, he was smart. He knew what was going on. Yeah. Even though he
together. Yeah. Wow. So this is my new pop.
Kim Foulis 41:09
Yeah, gosh, I’m not crying.
Doug Riggle 41:12
Yeah. Wow. And so then, you know, a few months later. So the odd thing was I had already gotten my tickets and promised to go to Ukraine for a month. That next year, which is right around when the adoption when he was going to move in with me. So I had to, he had to stay there for an extra month at the at the Cleveland Christian home. While I was in Ukraine. And I remember, I got there like we need. They got a hold. It means that we need you to call the United States and talk to Richie, like, oh, while you’re in Ukraine while I’m in Ukraine. Oh, wow. I don’t remember how much that phone call cost. But it was. This is back before cell phones and everyone had lost Oh, yeah. So I called there I said what happened? His teacher, one of his teachers was so connected with him that she was she was acting out. Why do adults do this? She was acting out and she was pushing his buttons to get him to respond. So that maybe the adoption would fall through? And he’d say, yeah, and because he got so mad at her, he took a shoe off and hit her with it. I mean, throw it out her and beat her good. Social Worker got on the phone after I talked to Richie and calmed him down. Because I was I only been there a week. Yeah. Three more weeks ago. Yeah. Yeah. And she’s like, I got the whole story. The teacher instigated that verse. He’s not in any trouble. It’s like, I just wanted you to talk to him. Yeah. Thank you. So yeah, we’re good. And then my work was was lovely. They gave me a month off to go to Ukraine already worked that out the year before. Then I go, come back home. And Richie. The next weekend moves in with me. So I had went to work for a week and then I took six weeks off. Wow, for parental leave, man. Got to got all the way up till he started school. Was that
Lance Foulis 43:04
a company perk.
Doug Riggle 43:05
It was a company perk. Wow. So job six
weeks? Yeah. The first two companies I work. I think of all the work for both of these companies. But the first of both of them. They didn’t have paternity leave until our youngest right?
Kim Foulis 43:17
Yes. You had no paternity leave until our third child. Yeah.
Doug Riggle 43:22
This was 1999 99. And I was on the y2k project. So Oh,
Lance Foulis 43:26
sure. Oh, my gosh. y2k. Yeah, I turned. I turned 18 and 99. So I was getting ready to go into college. But I remember the y2k thing. I think my dad bought a generator to be prepared. I think nice and nothing happened. I mean, thankfully, yeah, nothing happened. But that’s, that’s really funny. So Richie moves in with you. You get six weeks off. What was it like? Just tell us about that process of for both of you.
Doug Riggle 43:54
So you always go to the honeymoon period. Everything was great. He loved everything I made. The kid could eat like anything.
Lance Foulis 44:00
Oh my gosh, I forgot. Doug is an amazing cook. Oh, I know this. Like I’m amazing. I’ve heard many stories. When I was in college. You went and did something and you asked me to like, stay at your place and watch your dogs. I don’t remember where you went. This was a long time ago while I was in design college or high school. I don’t remember but yeah, you met you made Portuguese? Oh, yeah. I never had a Peruvian. You were like, you told me about it. And then you made Portuguese and that was one of the best meals I’ve ever had. It was so good.
Doug Riggle 44:30
Angie Volkman makes homemade Parag is really gonna say we trade at Christmas time. I give her tray of baklava she gives me back to frozen protein. Oh, that’s adorable. They’re amazing.
Lance Foulis 44:39
Do you make baklava? Yeah. Oh, bedsheets? I mean, wow. ridiculously good. So easy. Is it really? Oh, yeah.
Kim Foulis 44:47
It just sounds fancy. I guess
Doug Riggle 44:48
he says it’s easy. He says I’d probably light myself on fire. So anyway, yeah, the honeymoon phase. You get a honeymoon phase. He likes everything you’re cooking. Yeah.
And you know, we’re doing great entered school. This is this is where the odd stuff comes in, like, because he came from so long in foster care of age five to 13. They put him in the most restrictive school in Columbus, which was he’d come home every day with stories of kids jumping out Windows running away. And, and so every day I’d go there, I’d walk him to his classroom. I go there, I pick him up from this classroom. Work was great. They’re like, you can get off early to go do that. Wow. And
cuz yeah, this isn’t when you can work from home. No, no, no, no, like it is now.
So this is like this third week there at the school and I kept pushing him like, he needs to be in a better school. This does not make sense. He’s not a bad kid or an offender and everything. You’re just going on the fact that he came from foster care. That’s so terrible. It’s not fair. And one of the teachers one day stopped me and said, Hey, you’re Ritchie’s father until I’m like, yeah. Like, he’s not gonna be here much longer. I’m like, oh, good as you have one of the teachers. And he’s like, No, he’s like, but you’re the only parent I’ve ever seen. Come in. Oh, wow. So all these kids are here without any family support. Oh, wow. And so I wasn’t there much longer than he entered Middle School near our house on Indianola. Got it?
Lance Foulis 46:17
Got it on? Wow. Yeah. Yeah. I mean, that’s just it. It’s an amazing, it’s an amazing story. You you. I don’t even think I knew you were adopted. Maybe I did. Maybe just out of my mind, but the fact that you were adopted, like your parents telling you when you’re in fifth grade, dealing with that, and then the school thing happening, and then having it in the back of your mind, I’m going to adopt plus doing the orphanage thing. It’s such a it’s such an amazing story. Because I mean, Kim Kim said to me before that she could potentially adopt I’ve always been like, I don’t see that which is almost like what like kind of like I said earlier, it’s almost like everybody that I know, that’s like, gonna adopt it’s been in their mind since before. Like before college, I would say, and they’re always like, Yeah, I’m gonna, I’m gonna adopt. It’s such, it’s such an amazing, selfless thing to do. And it is really putting yourself out there. And the fact that you’re choosing to give a person love unconditionally, and you don’t know if they’re gonna return that necessarily. It’s just such a such a fascinating concept to me. So, I guess maybe I don’t want to go. We’re gonna make sure Okay, we’re good. 15 Okay. Um, can you just just tell me like, and walk me through and the listeners through? the why behind adoption? I guess? What, what? Why for you? Why they why adoption for you?
Doug Riggle 47:54
You described it perfectly. It’s the same way that God brings us into His family. Hmm, exact same way. Unconditional love towards someone who’s may not be deserving. But because of who they are. Still needs that unconditional love. Wow. Just because they exist. Yeah. Every child deserves a family. Yeah. And I, my biggest complaint was so I’ve been going to different churches and speaking in different, you know, pastors conferences and talking to, you know, people from pastors from 3040 churches. And I’ve only ever had one church ever really step up to support what I do. Seriously? Yeah, it’s the one I go to. Oh, wow. Yeah. And it’s, it’s heartbreaking because, to me, God’s called us to care for widows and children. Yeah, you know, James 127. And we’re not doing it as a church. Mm hmm. We’re not stepping up to take kids in there. At this. This is where a not at the risk of sounding horrible. I love the fact that, especially in the church, people have big families. But if they had to make room for just one, one child, Mm hmm. If if one person and you know, single, I’ll say person. In every church in America adopted from foster care, we’d wipe out the number of kids available for adoption in foster care overnight. Mm. One person from every one church in America the church. Yeah.
Kim Foulis 49:32
And then every family just one church. Yeah. All the churches in America. Yeah.
Lance Foulis 49:36
Melody said something like that on the podcast if Yeah, she said if one if there was one host family and every single church that they would wipe out, do you know her there that program? My village ministries, Melody mercial, we
Doug Riggle 49:48
partner with them? You do it? Yeah, they’re actually going to do some training for our new foster to adopt program.
Lance Foulis 49:54
Okay. That’s awesome. Yeah, I mean, that’s, that’s unbelievable. It’s one Family from every church step up. And then the one thing that she had brought up in our podcast that I, I’m sure you’d agree with is the fact that if there was one family that did it, you would have all of the other families, hopefully, or a majority of the families there ready to support and help out? Absolutely. Tell us about that. Did you have support when you? Yeah, tell us what that was like.
Doug Riggle 50:22
So the one thing I always tell people when they adopt make sure you have a good support system underneath you. So obviously, I had built in support with Rick anansie. Yep, I was Uncle Doug to there. You know, 12345 kids, yeah, five, including Jordan. And I was the person so when they would go away, they needed respite care, the two of them. I go watch the kids for them for the weekend. Sometimes it’d be bringing my dogs and Richie in tow. And we have you know, that 15 passenger van to get us from place to place.
Kim Foulis 50:53
Doug Riggle 50:53
way who had that? They did they had that day. And that’s right. Yeah. I forgot.
Yeah, it was huge. And it was a little terrifying to drive. I like driving small cars.
Yeah. It’s basically the size of a living room. Yeah, no pressure. But,
you know, they were, you know, we were each other’s support system through a lot of that. Yeah. My family as well. And I, by that time, I adopted Richie, I knew my biological mother and father and had a great relationship with them. So I would you know, he would go with me to Colorado. He went with me once to Iowa to visit my my biological dad, my dad put him on the back of his mule. He’d never been on an animal before in his life. And he’s Wait, he
Lance Foulis 51:33
had a mule? Yeah.
Doug Riggle 51:34
Why on the farm?
Lance Foulis 51:35
Oh, on the farm? Yeah. Okay, nice. Yeah. So he got to ride on a mule throat on a mule? Yeah, not everybody can say that. That’s true. Um, wow. Yeah. And then, I guess, the other thing, could you just talk about like, So my understanding is in order to foster care, and to adopt, you have to take classes or several classes. Right. Gonna take? How long is that process? Does it vary?
Doug Riggle 52:01
It varies by agency. So like, right now in Ohio, the state, county agencies have outsourced a lot of that work to smaller organizations that do you know, adoption and foster care. Which is, which is great. It’s it, it spreads out the the availability of classes for people to come and take quite a bit. So it’s not just one organization, when I took it, it was Franklin County Children’s Services. I’d go downtown once a week and said two classes than the home study. And you know that and usually by the time you get to the home study, you’ve got I believe, this home study may be applicable for up to a year and a half. Okay, two years. Okay. To go through the final session for adoption? Or foster care, you know,
Lance Foulis 52:48
yeah. Yeah. And then people that are interested in learning more, what’s the best way for somebody to learn more about adopting,
Doug Riggle 53:00
go to adopt us kids.org, I believe that’s the website, I may be wrong. And they’ll they’ll walk you through us waiting kids, you can see pictures, I can’t go there anymore. Because I it’s just heartbreaking. Because when I was adopting before I got Richie, I’d be out there every week, and I’d see these kids and I’ve watched them over months grow up, you know, Oh, wow. Without homes without families. And it was just, you know, you see kids back from when I was, you know, going to adopt Jason, you know, then two years later, now, these kids are still there. And now they’re two years older. And it’s just, it’s heartbreaking. Yeah,
Lance Foulis 53:36
absolutely. Absolutely. So I mean, that that’s something you even bring up because I’m curious. You’ve been doing this for years, you’ve seen? Like, I don’t, I don’t have to know about kids that need to be adopted? I don’t because if I don’t want to I just can turn my head away. Right? You’ve been looking at it for years now. Yes. How has it? How have you? What do you call that when you you see somebody jaded? How have you not been? How are you not jaded by what you’ve seen?
Doug Riggle 54:10
I’m not jaded by the kids and their stories. I’m jaded by the response of adults. Mm hmm. And I might start with all this, you know, my parents didn’t make the best decision waiting till I was in fifth grade. I wish they’d been telling me since I was born. Sure. Just make that part of the conversation. The kid you know, the the parents of Masha and her brother in Ukraine who taught their kids to be prostitutes. Of course they were in a situation either we watch our kids starve to death or become prostitutes. Hopefully, you know, this isn’t I never have to make you just see the adults are the ones who ultimately make these decisions. Right. And they do it from not always the best perspective. It may be a financial perspective, it may be a practical in their mind perspective. It may be I like my comfort life. It’s it’s, you know, adopting isn’t comfortable. Yeah. But that’s why I come back to the church and say, you guys were adopted by God. Right? You didn’t deserve it. Right. These kids do deserve to have a home. Yeah. And instead of having your fifth and sixth kid, how about bringing one in? Just one? Yeah. You know, I always like, if we can just do one. And that’s it. I realized with orphan relief, I get requests internationally, weekly, that I have to say no to programs from as far away as Pakistan, Georgia, Soviet Georgia, all over the world, a lot in Africa. Number one, we don’t have the resources to support them all. Sure. But it’s just heartbreaking that, you know, there’s not someone there to support them.
Right. Yeah, that you’re getting you. So you’re getting asked from different organizations all over the world for some help. Yeah. And and you have to say no, because, yeah.
Because I mean, we can end up giving 10 cents per orphanage that doesn’t do anything, we want to make sure we’re having the monetary impact as much monetary, monetary impact as possible to help them thrive and grow their programs. I did a what’s the word? Blog Post 2016, on how to start an orphanage. And it’s funny, because if you type that in, it’s like, my LinkedIn article is like one of the first ones that pops up. It’s gotten so many hits, which has been great. Yeah, but basically, I tell people don’t come alongside the ones that exist, and and help them grow and mature. There are so many well meaning people out there, but they’re gonna like, Oh, I’m just gonna fly to Africans to an orphanage. Hmm. Well, what’s the culture? What are the restrictions there? Like Latin America, every five years, you basically have like your your workers, when in your orphanage, get a check for basically a year salary. Like on a five year period. Oh, wow. I that may have changed since then. But there are all these different things that you have to know. Yeah. And I’m like, instead of trying to do that, find an orphanage. That’s a well run. well supported. come alongside them and help them grow and mature. Don’t start something new. Yeah. New ones. We need great stable ones.
Lance Foulis 57:26
Yeah. So enhance the ones that are already Yeah. Yeah. How can people get involved with your organization if they want to?
Doug Riggle 57:37
Orphan world relief.org Just go out there. We’re, we’re building up a great staff. I just hired an amazing development manager. Oh, yeah. Who is that? Her name is Kim. And she’s, you see her all the time. I do see her all the time.
Lance Foulis 57:52
Kim Foulis 57:54
I am so very, super pumped about it.
Doug Riggle 57:56
Yeah, we were very excited to have you there. She’s been
Lance Foulis 57:58
very, very excited. And I realized we
Doug Riggle 58:01
didn’t even talk about our foster program. So we’ve got two of them are foster to adult which Mary Jo is getting off the ground. It’s working with kids getting the mentorships, ages 16 to 25. And give them that support that they’re missing. Because when they graduate from the foster care, they’re on their own. Mm hmm. And they have no support system.
Can you talk about that? Because we hit on that at the beginning. But the whole concept of aging out aging out?
Huge problem in America. Because if you think about it, we take these kids away from their families, most 99.9% of time for very good reason. They’ve been abused, neglected, and say, we’re going to take care of you now. But we take care of them until they’re 18. And then we say, now you’re done. Right now you’re out on your own. I mean, I don’t know if you remember, Amber who goes to our sister church awaken. She was 18. And her social worker picked her up. She wasn’t no high school yet. Social Worker backed up said where do you want me to take you you’re out of the system now? Wow. Fortunately, a friend of hers. Family, let her sleep on the couch and get finished high school herself through college. And now she runs a nonprofit organization.
Lance Foulis 59:08
Candle the candle? Yeah, yeah. Oh, wow. Yeah. So so what you’re describing it kid turns 18. Yeah. And they’re done there. It could be December. It could be March, it could be whatever month. Yeah. And they they get taken out of a foster and then are just basically on their own. They’re on
Doug Riggle 59:27
their own. There are some support systems available to them. Like Star House in Columbus does offer some sort of residential support. But there’s financial literacy that these kids had not gotten right there. It
wasn’t financially literate at age 80. You know, most kids aren’t,
you know, all these things. But you had a support system,
Kim Foulis 59:47
right? Yeah. And that weren’t on your own right.
Doug Riggle 59:49
i Yeah, I mean, I wasn’t, I can’t imagine me turning 18 And then like, All right, go be in a job
Kim Foulis 59:57
bank account. Save Yep.
Doug Riggle 1:00:00
So what happened? Like what? There has to be stats and stuff out there. So what typically happens?
Every year 20,000 kids aged out of foster care. And then what out of that some of them. So a good percentage of them will be homeless Chase or a period of time. A good percentage of them will turn to what’s the word? Drugs, alcohol theft to survive? Yeah, understandably. Yeah. 80% of people in prison have one thing in common. They’ve been in foster care. 80% 80%. Yeah. And you think the other 20% are probably going to grow up without a family support system? Right, right. Oh, my gosh, that’s not everyone, you know, in prison. Sure. But that’s a staggering statistic. So if we can get involved in these kids lives between, hopefully age 16 and 25, and get them on the right path, we can then stem the tide of statistics, they’re going to face them of being helpless. You agree? Yeah, having to resort to theft. You know,
Lance Foulis 1:01:11
I mean, that’s just such a, it’s, it’s an interesting thing to think, when you do grow up. So I grew up with a really great support system, I grew up with a family, my parents didn’t get divorced, you know, like, that is a very unique kind of situation where my parents are like, actually still together. My brothers and I got along for the most part, but at 18, I was not ready to be any kind of an adult, and to have somebody turn 18, and then just expect that they can go out and function in society is absolutely insane. Does anybody like I imagine that there’s not necessarily like something in place where these, all of these kids would even know what’s going to happen at age 18.
Doug Riggle 1:01:53
There are so the social workers tried to work with them as much as possible. A friend of mine, she and I worked together at an insurance company before she left Michigan, a social worker, she had eight kids that she knew were aging out. So she worked with them. That was her job to kind of come alongside them, work with them, try to get them as much support she could. So that they were prepared when they turned 18. There are some states in some areas pushing the age to 21. Try to help some of that. Sure. But again, if you don’t do something, an intervention to help these kids get a support system in place. They’re going to be 21. Still the same things.
Lance Foulis 1:02:28
Yeah. Exact same situation. Just three years later, right. Wow. Okay, so yeah. So you mentioned a couple different things that are from World Relief does what other things are you guys doing that people could come in and help with?
Doug Riggle 1:02:41
So our I think our favorite program that people love to get involved with is are my comfy kids broken? Comfy kids? Yep. So kids enter foster care all the time, what we do is a lot of times, they show up with the clothes on their back. And if they’re a small child, that may just be a diaper. And they’re now in a new home, that they don’t know the rules or anything. Nothing is theirs. So we put together backpacks, age, gender appropriate backpacks, that provides a change of clothing, a nightlight, a book, coloring book, a blanket, a stuffed animal, even even the 17 year olds get a stuffed animal. Yeah, something that’s theirs. Yeah. And allows them to have a sense of dignity. Instead of maybe a few things shoved in a trash bag. You right, yeah. Because a lot of times are taken from home so they don’t have a suitcase or anything like that. shoved in a trash bag. And they are. Yeah, so we tried to provide them with a sense of dignity, and a little bit of hope. To ease that, that scary thing. I mean, think about if I were seven years old, taken from my family in the middle of the night, even though it may not be great. It’s all I knew. And now I’m building my place on in a new family’s home. Right? I don’t know, the rules don’t know anything, nothing is mine. All these things around me aren’t mine. Right? And this gives them something that’s theirs that they can take with them.
That’s so that’s so awesome. So people could donate,
they can donate Yeah, you can go to our website, and we have a list of approved donation items for there. And we’ve probably given out, we work with 12 Different social agencies around the state. Right now we have relationships with them. So they come to us and say, We think we’re going to have you know, 25 kids, so we prepare 25 backpacks at different ages and give it to them God and then they they they’re right there and they give them to the kid when they enter foster care.
You have to have heard some stories about the impact of those things.
There was one and I wish they sent us the picture but you know, we’re not allowed to publish the pictures for privacy issues. The six kids sibling group got taken out of their home and they they got all six of them a backpack. Wow. It’s just the these kids are like overjoyed that they’ve got something that’s there. Yeah. Yeah, there was another story where a little boy He got taken out of his home, like on a weekday. The next day, the foster parent took him to school to register him because now he’s in a new school, had his backpack with him the whole time, took it into school, got fell down and gotten horribly muddy have at recess, and was just so upset because I mean, he’s scared. He’s in a new school now he’s, yeah, all these things are new around him. And they opened the backpack up, and it was a change of clothes. So he changed his clothes went right back to school. Like nothing had happened.
That’s awesome that the class, so yeah, that’s amazing. So people can find you. Did you? Did you pull up their website? Yeah, I got it. You can just say what it is. Or from or relief.org.org orphan world. relief.org You said that a while ago, I just couldn’t remember. I didn’t want to botch it. That’s okay. Orphan world. relief.org. When your book come out,
I keep getting asked that question. We’re like midway through our second review of it, then we’re going to turn it over to some editors, okay, and then work with an either an agent or we might do self publishing again.
Kim Foulis 1:06:04
Again, is how many how many of you already done? Five? Five?
Doug Riggle 1:06:08
You’ve written five books? Yeah. Yeah. I didn’t know that. i Good. Are they fiction nonfiction like
so the first one is a Bible study called your testimony. Okay. And then I wrote a book, a journal, I had a small business with a lovely lady named Shaundra. She I used to work together at a company and we formed her own business. Because we had all these people around us who didn’t know what their passions were in life. We help them discover their passion in life. So we wrote a journal to kind of walk them through every week, every day thing they could do to learn about who they are and
basically unpack themselves Yeah, figure out wow,
yeah. And then there were a couple of books I wrote about just for fun. They’re like not to be crude like a quick toilet seat read Yeah, yeah. So you can sit there and read read the whole thing. Random ish one and random ish to random is to is called Uncle Doug wisdom because I have all these kids who call me uncle Doug and yeah, it’s just little little things in life random ish. One is all these things that I think, but never say out loud. like mashed potatoes and ketchup must never touch. Yeah, you know, I just put them all down there and just had fun with that. And then I have a collection of blog post about adoption that’s out there as well.
Lance Foulis 1:07:20
Got it. But this is the one that would you say it was something buffalo is the title. I’d rather be a but I’d rather be a buffalo which is a great title. Yeah. It’s to come out and maybe what we should do then is have you back on we’ll do a little like Jocko podcast style book review. Awesome. Have you ever heard one of Jocko is no, the Jocko podcast so he’s a retired Navy SEAL. And he has guys that have written books on any Hill read chunks of the book with the people. One book that he read that was he did what was called machete season. I think that’s what it was called. Can you verify that? He wrote he read he read a book that a guy wrote after interviewing people that carried out the killings in Rwanda? Oh, well, it’s it’s a rough
Kim Foulis 1:08:11
I read it. It’s machete season.
Lance Foulis 1:08:14
I had to I had to read it in chunks because it’s, it’s a it’s a very hard read. And then he’ll he’ll bring on people that have written books about their time in Vietnam. He’s had POWs on it’ll have tons of military guys on, and he just does these book reviews. So yeah, we’ll do something like that, where I’ll read your book. And then with you questions, have you read chunks of your book? And then you can elaborate on it? Yeah, if you want, you got a
Doug Riggle 1:08:37
little taste to hurt here, because we already talked about a couple of the chapters that we’re working on right now.
Lance Foulis 1:08:40
Which is great, right? That’s so that you can go get it done quicker.
Doug Riggle 1:08:44
That’s right. That’s right. That’s right.
Lance Foulis 1:08:46
I mean, we used to I’ve talked about potentially running but he’s got a bunch of books. So what the one was, I think was the second podcast that we did was with Patrick Skelton where he he came on and talked about his book of his novel. Yeah, they wrote which is just crazy crazy that somebody says I’m gonna write a book and then they actually do it they because there’s nobody that’s like, you have to do this. It’s a deadline. There’s no like, boss, it’s up to you. Right? It takes Yeah, self
Doug Riggle 1:09:10
discipline discipline. Yeah. Kevin, I meet twice a week in the evenings Tuesday and Friday nights and we’ve we’ve spent an entire year going through the first like whole review of it now we’re going back through and adding some details some things Wow. Then we’re going to get some people that we know to edit it and that’s great. Then either we made self publish, which I’ve done that before Sure. Your testimony I did through Christian faith publishing God, but the other ones I just did self published because they were fun and just
because you could so that still impressive that you were able to carry that out. Yeah.
Kim Foulis 1:09:47
We’ll get you a Kevin from somewhere.
Lance Foulis 1:09:50
There you go. Me? Yeah, get me I just need. I need a Kevin.
Doug Riggle 1:09:55
Kevin. Kevin. Greg. If you’re out there. Everyone needs you.
Lance Foulis 1:09:57
Yes, way to go. Yeah. That’s, that’s amazing. So okay, so just to kind of start wrapping things up here. I learned so much during this episode. And I’m really glad that you came on. So thanks for coming on and telling bits and pieces of your story. Thank you. I really hope folks that are listening that you kind of take the bits that Doug was able to share and think about just that concept if one if one family or one person in every single church adopted that that would wipe out the foster care orphans situation, correct.
Doug Riggle 1:10:37
Okay. There’s still be kids in foster care, but they’re, they’re not all available for adoption. Guy 110,000. At any one time are available for adoption. Wow, that’s not that many. Right? That’s, that’s, yeah. Too many for one family. Yes, correct. But still not
Lance Foulis 1:10:54
all work together for most favourites. And then, and then I also just like the idea, and this is something I felt like I really learned when whichever, which, which podcast episode was that melody?
Kim Foulis 1:11:07
That was that was season one.
Lance Foulis 1:11:09
Right? Season One. I was just curious what, what it was. But anyway, one thing that she kind of, elaborated on, and I hadn’t really thought about is the idea of, not everybody. Not everybody necessarily, is in a place where they could but everybody is in a place where they can do something, yes, you are able to take some sort of action.
Doug Riggle 1:11:31
If you can’t adopt, you can foster if you can’t Foster, you can volunteer, if you can’t volunteer, you can give some a little bit of money. $5 a month, you know, if I had, you know, if five people gave $5 a month. And they told five people to give $5 a month and they told five people I mean, with just that little bit of five, five by five, we’d have hundreds of 1000s of dollars to work with and to be able to make massive impact.
Yeah, you can do without a Starbucks once a month. You can take that
5000 every month.
Lance Foulis 1:12:02
You can you can you can do without that $5 thing that you buy. Yes, you can you can do without that milkshake, or the fries or whatever, whatever it is then in I mean, I’m I’m talking to myself, as much as I’m talking. Episode Nine,
Kim Foulis 1:12:17
it’s the community effect is what we call it, which is totally what it is.
Lance Foulis 1:12:21
And it’s called My village ministries now correctly. Yeah. So they they did have a change. And I haven’t been able to have her on to kind of talk through that yet. But we have talked and eventually we will get her back to talk about what they’re doing. They’re doing the same thing. I think it’s just a different name. My village pastries. Yeah, so that’s a great episode, you can go listen to that. It’s a slightly different take. It’s more the idea is kind of rescuing people upstream before necessarily somebody ends up in foster care. That’s the whole idea behind what they do. But there is need, there are people in need and the stat that you had mentioned 80% of people in prison, were in foster care at one point in time. Imagine if, if that five bucks a month that you send, if that was to positively impact that statistic. Think of think about it that way. It’s I think we have the ability to make we’re so used to only thinking that it it has to be this big, elaborate thing like somebody has to I don’t know quit their job and go do something like no like five bucks. That’s not very much but the the relative impact positively that something like that can have an every single human being can do that you only have to be 18 Now to give five bucks a month. I got paid $7 a month to do a paper route with my brothers $7 a month. I could have afforded a few dollars, I guess.
Doug Riggle 1:13:52
We had a young girl last year she she organized at our high school a 5k. And really she raised $5,000 on her own for us. Wow. Just got her friends together. She did a t shirt. They had fun.
Lance Foulis 1:14:05
And she raised $5,000 for you. See, there’s lots of little people out there young people out there that have that kind of have that kind of gumption. You haven’t been you haven’t been tossed about by the world yet. You still have some? I don’t know fire in Yeah. So yeah, I mean, those are those are great stories. So anyway, I learned so much. So thanks so much, Doug for coming on. I want to give you an opportunity just to say any closing thoughts that you have any words of encouragement, any things that you just how, however you want to close out the episode, man, you just go ahead and
Doug Riggle 1:14:37
you know, it’s as simple as this. I, like I said before, I used to help people figure out their passion in life. And I believe everyone. Everyone’s got gifts. Everyone’s got passions. Everyone’s got a soapbox, and I don’t expect everyone to be on the orphan soapbox. But if everyone took the time out of their month, to stand on their personal soapbox to make a difference Imagine how different this world would be right? We all took those things that really bother us and did one thing to make a difference about it each month. Yeah, we changed the world overnight.
Lance Foulis 1:15:09
You know, that’s really great. That’s a really great statement and everything that’s so bad in our society is so in our face right now, if you take your face out of that and choose choose to put something positive out, that’s something that’s come up a lot this season in the podcast is like producing something. Yes.
Kim Foulis 1:15:30
Don’t be too much of it. Don’t consume anything out there that makes it better. That’s definitely
Lance Foulis 1:15:34
not a quote from me. I don’t remember who said that. Maybe it’s, it’s probably some famous person out there said something about that. But that’s not a lance, or Lancelot quote. So but I mean, just the idea that you could make a small change and it could. Yeah, it could make a massive impact on this world. That’s, I really, I really love how you put that. So thanks again, Doug, for coming on. Thank you. Were to having you back soon. Awesome. Thanks, everybody.
Written by Kim Foulis
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